Wednesday, May 27, 2015

ABS-solutely Hypocritical

A while ago, I wrote a post on body image emphasizing my belief that we shouldn't discuss women's (or men's) bodies and beauty standards. We shouldn't talk about big bodies, skinny bodies, different bodies, changing bodies, real bodies, fake bodies, etc.

We shouldn't fuel the fire, so to speak, of negative self-image by writing and reading about things that make us rethink how we look. For example, you could be having a great day, a wonderful, feel-good, happy-thoughts day, and you stumble upon an article that says, "WHY MEN PREFER TONED, NOT BUFF, WOMEN."

Immediately, you're triggered. "Am I considered 'buff?' I've been strength training more... I've been seeing more definition in my arms... Am I not appealing now?"

That, my friends, is what I mean by shutting up. That is what I think should stop. And I know what I'm about to dive into might seem a little hypocritical, but...

I guess what I'm trying to say is this is about me, not you. This is something I wanted to share about my own personal journey of self-acceptance. Maybe I'm fueling the fire, but if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. Or rather, click that X in the corner. 

I have been on a five year quest for a six pack. 

For half a decade, I have longed for two rows of three tiny mounds to protrude from my stomach. (Ew, it sounds really gross when stated like that).

I constantly ask myself why? If I'm not in a bikini, I'm not showing off my midsection. No one sees this part of me on a daily basis, so why is it so important that it look like that?

Do I want a six pack as a fitness trophy? Well, that leads to more questions. Do I think that girls with firm, cut tummies are the only ones who are fit? 


Occasionally, I'll look in the mirror in the mornings and see a four pack (those last two are elusive little jerks), but this usually only occurs on mornings after I have an early, light dinner. Then they are gone the MINUTE I drink water or eat breakfast. My abs are so fleeting, why chase them?

Chasing abs is like solving a problem like Maria.

Your core is an amazing area. It holds you all together and drives your strength. It deserves to be loved and appreciated for however it looks. It changes hourly with food intake, dehydration, stress, and other factors, and you know what? It's going to change hourly, daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly with life factors. Can you say child birth?

Again, I apologize if this comes across hypocritical, but if you've made it this far down the post, you've stuck with me. Thanks for listening.

No questions, no more fueling. You look pretty today! 


  1. I love this positive message! I've been on a quest for a six pack for like... well ever. And I recently had this conversation with my boyfriend about how we could be "so cut" if we wanted... but that would mean no drinks with friends, no pizza (every Sunday), no frozen yogurt.. things we truly enjoy! So what if I don't have body builder abs... I'm happy with how I feel and love that I get to eat and drink with my friends. That's what's most important to me - enjoying life!! Loving the positivity on this Wednesday! : )

    1. I know... I've read what body builders actually do prior to competitions to get those abs. It's a life of SUCH deprivation, and I don't want that!